I wanted to talk about Mistakes. A mistake is a judgement or action that is misguided or wrong.  Now we all make mistakes. Mistakes are as natural to us as breathing. We make them and often have to sit and deal with the fall out not realizing in the moment what the mistake was going to lead to. I make them, you make them, we all make them. We don't have to wallow in the repercussions of them, but we should really understand this, was that really a mistake?  We are told all the time by spirit and spiritual leaders, that whatever happens to us or for us is meant to be. If we follow these thoughts, then we never make mistakes, even the action of doing it in the moment may lead to something we didn't expect, but maybe, it allows for growth. Growth in ourselves to understand that what happened, happened. It was needed. It was what we needed to see something in ourselves we need to change. How we have to change the way we direct our thoughts, or even the cutting out or letting go of people and things in our lives that cause us distress or problems.  

I was recently asked what I thought.  In the heat of the discussion, because yes it became heated because of the topics discussed, I first stated, "You really don't want to know what I think." They pressed stating they really did and well, I let go. I sat after the discussion, more like a release of thoughts that I had kept to myself, what I really thought, myself personally and felt several things.  I felt a little numb. I felt a relief as well. But all day after it, I felt a little remorse. I didn't say anything to try to hurt someone, but to tell how I have been hurt by the subject. What that hurt was like, how it made me feel and how those involved made me feel as well. Even as I write this, several feelings come up. "Was that a mistake or did I need to do it for myself?" But I decided to share this experience because I wanted to prove something. Spirituality teaches us to be responsible for ourselves and learn that if we do something that those actions are our own, not others nor does it belong to them. We need to be responsible for what happens next and realize that God, your guides,  whatever or whomever you pray to, is not judging you, you are. 

A part of me wants to push the feel regrets subject, but in reality, I don't. I had to speak my peace for me because when people ask you what is on your mind, they don't want to really know. They want to know a version of what is on your mind they can accept. When something is told them that they don't expect, that is on them, not you. You have to speak your peace and yes make mistakes. Those are needed to happen to create growth not stagnation. If we sat around telling each other what they wanted to hear, we wouldn't grow. I have made my views clear and have always been my truest self. If someone, anyone doesn't want accept the truest version of myself, they do not need to be present and can find others who will make them feel better for themselves when they don't feel better for themselves. I am not here to tell a fairy tale of life, but a reality. We have been given so many illusions and bought into them that we really don't understand ourselves till we strip off those blinders and smile like an aimless puppet doing and saying what ever others want.  That is so clear in how people are approaching the current situations in the world as well, but if they stopped, ripped off the bandage, let the wounds breathe, they would eventually heal. We can't keep applying bandages to people wounds in our lives. The scars give character and reminders and sometimes when we are through with those scars, they disappear. 

So don't beat yourself up because you have made a mistake with someone or something, learn from it. Be a better version of yourself and embrace what it is teaching you today, because most likely tomorrow you will make another one.  Let them go, learn, be better and most of all know your still loved as long as you love yourself more than anyone else will.

Blessings and Happy August,

Steven