Recently, something has happened in my life that has brought up some considerable changes that have manifested what I believe for mine and our highest good.  I will share those details later in this writing if you decide to read through this instead of just glancing at it.

I have been a people pleaser pretty much, all my life. A life of service to spirit and having to compromise comes along with the work of teaching and practicing spirituality.  Sometimes, being a people pleaser will take over your life so much that when you finally decide to decide for yourself, you sit back and ask yourself, "How will this affect others or, How will they see me after such decisions?"  Well truly, if you are happy, doing something that doesn't harm others, and want to follow through on those decisions, then people should be grateful,  not questing it or asking, "What about Me?" 

Beginning at 10, I already was working as a people pleaser. I accepted without any question, to take care of my two sisters when my mother needed to go to work and even when she came home, make her and us dinner so she didn't have to. When an event happened in my life when I was 14 that could have changed the entire course of my it, I made decisions to act on that for my sisters and my mother, all the time not thinking of myself. I wanted them to be happy and please them, even when I wanted certain things to happen, my feelings and what I wanted always took a backseat to others. My childhood never really was a childhood and I never really had good, best friends that I could rely on until I was an adult.  When you have best friends, pleasing them or seeing them happy means you will do anything for them because, in turn, they return those same feelings, and having that in my life now is important in the decisions and the circumstances that have come up have revealed.  

Being a people pleaser isn't necessarily a bad thing, but it can be when you feel so torn about doing something for your happiness that you even feel bad telling people. What they expect from you is not necessarily something you can always give nor will you because you have a life too.  

With spirit, I created RISE to teach people and bring the opportunity through spirit and their teachings, a way to feel and act a little bit more in control of your lives. To learn that being responsible for the positive and negative in your life and when you want it to change, you are what changes it.  This has been the one thing that spirit said to me. "Do the work and be happy anyway you want to be happy and we will take care of you."

Well lately, I have not been very happy with certain things in my life and needed them to change. I needed to turn that People Pleasing act unto myself. I started to think about what I wanted and where. What I wanted to do and how when people keep pressuring me on what they want and expect me to do, I feel more and more resistance. I want to live my life for a change the way I want to. I sent that energy out to the universe and through a simple act of saying, "Keep your fingers crossed." It happened.

A month ago we found out, that a job opening happened at the law firm Shannon works for.  This opening happened as a lateral move job. This job is in New York.  We have always said to my friend that if it ever happened, we would move.  We are moving. We will as of late September-October, be moving to New Jersey to live closer to our best friend. But not only that, the entire network of friends we have created up there over the past 15 years of traveling back and forth. This is a good thing for us and we are looking forward to it with each passing day.  We need to do this as between work and home, this area is more and more not feeling like home but just a place to exist.  We need to start preparing for where we want to live our lives together and possibly retire. I know some of you are saying, but New Jersey?  Why?  Well, we are cold-weather people. We love seasons and we love theater and most of all our friends there. We don't do much here because this place doesn't offer what it use to and is more and more becoming just unwelcoming. We need to please ourselves for a change, for Shannon even has had the same experiences of pleasing others.

This news might not be ideal for some or all of you. My work will continue as it has since Covid. Spirit was preparing me a long time ago to do this via Online service. If it changes or becomes something else, it will be for all our highest good.  But realize, People Pleasing doesn't mean sacrifice. It means giving what you can so that you both are happy. One person can't be happier than the other. If one is not happy, we truly are not happy. If we are happy together, we have everything we need. Our energy is better. Our thoughts are better and we are willing to help each other all the more, because the wealth is shared equally and we are all, never without.  

Again, nothing changes, just location, and for all of you, I am grateful for this opportunity to do so and also to be able to continue to share, for all our highest good.

Blessings and have a Great June!

Steve